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I found this image and thought it spoke more than just love and hate. It represented that beautiful struggle of love and hate. The concepts themselves don’t seem to be able to co-exist.
Love: a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. Hate: to feel intense dislike, or extreme aversion or hostility. How on earth can they get twisted? And yet, it is one of the most powerful and repetitive themes we see in great novels or movies. The love-hate relationship. The struggle of the two intense emotions fighting to overcome the other.
For those of you who have read Blind Sight, will know how hostile Tatiana is. She has a couple of love-hate relationships I’m working on and I’ve found it to be rather difficult to execute properly.
Have you ever written one? What is your favourite love-hate relationship in the world of fiction?
- Ermisenda Alvarez
I have kind of written love-hate relationships although they usually turn more into hate-hate by the end… what can I say, I’m a black hearted one, I am.
Haha!
I always assumed that most love-hate turn into love-love relationships. It’s good to see some variation! 
Not sure why I think it’s GOOD to see relationships turn into hate-hate ones, maybe I’m also a black hearted one. 
“I think it’s GOOD to see relationships turn into hate-hate ones” I find them more interesting because conflict is more interesting than bliss. Bliss is nice but it’s bloody dull.
Very good point. Conflict is what keeps readers hooked afterall!
awesome!
I’m glad you think so!
They meet at some point in the circle.
The circle? Mind elaborating for us, neenslewy?
Sure, sorry. I always think of the love hate circle, you can love someone with so much passion, the same energy is held by some people when they hate, I always think of both as having infinite cycles – there will never be a world without love or hate. The point the circle meets (when you draw a circle) is the point that love and hate meet – this is why sometimes you can love somebody so much and at the same time have many negative/hatred thoughts. I think it is hard to explain…. I could draw a better example of this theory. Hope the explanation helps a little.
Yeah it does, thanks for elaborating. I see what you mean. I definitely agree that for better or for worse, we will always have love and hate. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us, neenslewy.
Jean Valjean/Javert
I haven’t watched Les Miserables yet, but I will soon! I hope I can understand the reference better then.
Gracias por el commentario, Bluejellybeans!
I would have to say the relationship between Frodo/ Smeagol/Sam in Lord of the Rings is a very interesting relationship.
Not of course because they are romantically involved but because they are dependant of each other in a very interesting way.
They love and hate each others’ company at times and THAT i find is very interesting.
The struggle between hate and love is always fun to watch. An interesting example you gave. They definitely can’t break the bond and yet, they barely seem to be able to keep it. Thanks for sharing!
I thought I commented on this! Um… Kate.
So true! (I thought I commented on this too… oops, a month too late)
The opposite of love is not hate, but indifference.
I read a beautiful quote that went along those lines in Delirium. “Hate isn’t the most dangerous thing, he’d said. Indifference is.” So true. Thanks for commenting!
Both of these statements really mean apathy. Indifference is love, a virtue that allows us to live and let live. It’s apathy that is a lack of compassion. They are not the same thing.
I guess it’s between two words. Apathetic is definitely indifference towards suffering. Indifference, like everything, is good AND bad. I like to think it’s better to feel something than nothing at all though. Thanks for the clarification, Anne!
Sure. I think I should have said, “can be a part of love,” which is what apathy can not be. The hatred of one man, the ignorance of another, and the apathy of a third are a very dangerous combination.
I wouldn’t want to meet that kind of person. A true villain!